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Gottman Method – Couples Therapy

The Gottman Method is a research-based approach to couples therapy designed to help partners build stronger, healthier relationships. Developed by Drs. John and Julie Gottman, this method focuses on improving communication, deepening emotional connection, and managing conflict in a respectful and productive way.


Instead of just fixing problems, the Gottman Method helps couples understand each other better and create a relationship built on trust, friendship, and shared goals. Whether you’re struggling with frequent arguments, feeling disconnected, or just want to strengthen your bond, this approach provides practical tools to improve your relationship.

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How Can Cognitive Behavioural Therapy Help?

The Gottman Method helps couples:

 

  • Improve Communication – Learn how to express your needs and feelings without arguing or shutting down.

  • Resolve Conflicts in a Healthy Way – Understand and manage disagreements without damaging your relationship.

  • Rebuild Trust & Emotional Connection – Heal past hurts and strengthen intimacy.

  • Break Negative Cycles – Stop repeating the same fights and find healthier ways to connect.

  • Understand Each Other’s Needs & Love Languages – Discover what makes each of you feel loved, valued, and understood.

  • Increase Friendship & Affection – Strengthen your bond and bring more joy into your relationship.

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The Gottman Method isn’t about choosing sides or placing blame—it’s about working together to build a stronger, more fulfilling relationship.

When is Cognitive Behavioural Therapy used?

This approach is ideal for couples who:

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  • Struggle with communication or frequent arguments.

  • Feel emotionally disconnected or distant.

  • Want to rebuild trust after betrayal or conflict.

  • Need help navigating life changes (marriage, parenthood, loss, etc.).

  • Want to strengthen their relationship before marriage or a major commitment.

  • Feel stuck in a cycle of resentment, criticism, or defensiveness.


Whether your relationship is in crisis or you just want to improve your connection, the Gottman Method can provide practical strategies to help your relationship thrive.

Frequently Asked Questions (FAQ):

  • 1. Does acceptance & commitment therapy mean I have to accept everything, even if it’s painful?
    No, ACT doesn’t mean approving of pain—it means learning to make space for emotions so they don’t control you. You can still take action to improve your life while accepting what you can’t change.
  • 2. How is acceptance & commitment therapy different from traditional talk therapy?
    ACT focuses less on changing thoughts and more on how you respond to them. Instead of trying to “think positive,” you’ll learn skills to detach from unhelpful thoughts and take meaningful action.
  • 3. Do I have to meditate or practice mindfulness for acceptance & commitment therapy to work?
    While ACT includes mindfulness techniques, it’s not about meditation. It’s about being present in the moment and making choices that align with your values.

Contact

Would you like to explore how Gottman Method can help you?
Book a free 15-minute consultation today!

Phone: (613) 929-6796

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